It’s a bright Friday morning. The clear skies brings to my consciousness what transparency looks like. 

It’s beautiful.

We are familiar with the sentence don’t lie to me; just tell me the truth. However, unready we are to hear that truth…

I remember discovering something about someone and didn’t know how to tell the affected party who was my friend that she’s being lied to. Eventually I told her what I had found out, but it cost me my friend.

Most times truth comes at a cost. What I’ve discovered however is that it doesn’t have to be bitter every time we say it.

Knowing the painful power of truth, it is important that when we decide to speak it, it should be with empathy, love and care for the person we speak to.

Jesus is one person known to have spoken the truth at all times. While he hurt the egos of most Pharisees. He was able to speak truth with compassion and love to the Samaritan woman at the well. 

He spoke so kindly that she felt the power of is words and was drawn to it to the point that she went about spreading the news of Jesus’ presence in her village.

Let’s also recall Jesus conversation with the apostles during the last super. Though he informed, Peter will betray him, he also told all, that he as prayed for him. He didn’t go attacking Peter with the truth about his weakness. He spoke to him out of a place of pity and understanding of his human weakness.

All that being said, we have an example in Christ. The truth does not change even when we use a little love in dishing it out.


I started becoming anxious about something yesterday. Before going to bed my husband tried to console me. Then he asked a bothersome question think well about now. Once your worry is over how do you want to remember today, this moment.
Trying to get myself to sleep I remembered the scripture

“So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.Matt 6:34 (NIV)

That was when I realised I wanted to capture my life in this one word. “LIVE”

I want to look back on every moment satisfied that I did my best per time and lived every moment in the best possible way.

I have enough regret in life as it is. Wishing I had gone on more trips without worrying too much about finances. I wished I had invested and built more sources of income.

Looking back was when I discovered I had more money than I should be worried about but I was too worried to see the blessings I had and hence didn’t live my life I just existed. Looking back now I realise life is to be lived and not worried over at the end of the day I will be alright.

I’ve made my choice. The question is now yours. What one word will qualify you?
Live or Exist?


Telephone rings are not taken for granted this days. We’ll use a favourite song or trending song as ring tune. Others will specify the ring tune to indicate the particular person calling. A family member, a loved one or someone we’ll rather avoid all together.

Though a few of us like myself would prefer the vibrate alert for calls and messages. As long as you own a phone you would definitely get alerted when someone is calling your number, sent a voice mail or message.

The same is with our inner man. First we all are born with a conscience. A little voice that convicts us of sin. Not a timid sound. But a cool well thought out good version of us. You may hear it in the voice of a loved one, an elderly person, a friend, mentor or even religious leader.

However, at baptism (baptism by fire -holy spirit). A more decisive ring tune is discovered. As you walk, talk and listen to God in your inner self, we start recognising that voice more and more. We Begin to understand how our heavenly phone works.

The apps available on the direct line starts to appear more clearly. Like we may discover the dream app like Joseph did.

Now Joseph had a dream, and when he told it to his brothers they hated him even more.ESV Gen 37:5

Or the revelation app like John the apostle. Even the instinct of Modecai is sharpened as we keep growing in constant communication with the father.

Like a child learns to recognize the voice of its parent so do we start recognising God’s call in our daily lives.

This voice starts directing our decisions and actions to the point were we become a rallying point for others. A pointer of direction for crucial decisions because they see us as wise.

eAt Gibeon fthe Lord appeared to Solomongin a dream by night, and God said, “Ask what I shall give you.” And Solomon said, “You have shown great and steadfast love to your servant David my father, because hhe walked before you in faithfulness, in righteousness, and in uprightness of heart toward you. And you have kept for him this great and steadfast love and ihave given him a son to sit on his throne this day. And now, O Lord my God,jyou have made your servant king in place of David my father, kalthough I am but a little child. I do not know lhow to go out or come in.mAnd your servant is in the midst of your people whom you have chosen, a great people, ntoo many to be numbered or counted for multitude. oGive your servant therefore an understanding mind pto govern your people, that I may qdiscern between good and evil, for who is able to govern this your great people?”

10 It pleased the Lord that Solomon had asked this. 11 And God said to him, “Because you have asked this, and have not asked for yourself long life or riches or the life of your enemies, but have asked for yourself understanding to discern what is right, 12 behold, rI now do according to your word. Behold, sI give you a wise and discerning mind, so that none like you has been before you and none like you shall arise after you. 1kings 3:5-12. ESV.

That is when we get a glimpse of who we are/meant to be and the possibilities that lay ahead.

We! Are the salt of the world, the light of the world.

Yes! We have being called by the father to give sweet taste to this bitter world. To light up our universe. We are being “called” daily to respond to who we are meant to be…

You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet. Matt: 5:13 ESV


I like the page goalcast on Facebook.

Last week I saw a random video from the page about how Adele came to be. She never even inspired to become famous, her goal was to work with people who wanted to become famous.
If you’ve not seen the video here it is.

But for her friend who posted her video online. Adele may never have become as famous as she is today. But for her love life that went south she may never have written such a beautiful song as “someone like you”.

So guys I’m keeping it shorttoday. It is really time to stop fucking yourself over.

Live life, embrace your erorrs, be the best version of yourself, follow your passion cos you know not where it may lead you.


I can’t keep but think back to when I was an evil minded child. I hated the cry of babies. I wasn’t sympathetic towards those helpless beings at all. In fact I thought them to be attention seekers.

My hatred for infants knew no bounds as a child. However, at the back of my mind I always thought if I armed any of them babies I may grow up regretting it. I may grow up to realise I love them and won’t be able to forgive my younger self. This sort of restrained me from actually carrying out my hatred for babies.

Fast forward to present day. I have come to understand that because the devil was thrown out from a place of elevation to this world. We all have become vulnerable to being a dwelling place to either God or satan.

A child is tabula-rasa. Though clean, they are also susceptible to the worst kind of evil. What an individual chooses to allow in his mind will determine what kind of adults we become.

There is a reason Jesus referred to his body as the “temple” not minding the large and luxurious temple built by human hands. 

There’s a reason Apostle Paul talks about edifying our spirit with good and heavenly things because these things matter.
In building up a strong spirit, full of goodness and humane character we need to feed our minds and body with healthy and good food, informatoon and even clothing. The kind of music you listen to, movies you watch, books you read all add up to the kind and quality of dreams your mind can conceive.

Have you watched a scary movie and found it difficult to sleep? Yea, but its just a movie isn’t it? 

If all you hear and read about are bad things, wars, death of people. Racial/ ethnic clashes. Its only a matter of time before you become an angry, bitter individual. If on the other hand you eat healthy, listen to good inspiring music and stories. Watch movie that elevate you and hold positive discussions, even the most pessimistic person will start seeing something good in this life.

This is the beginning of a new week. Let the voice of Apostle Paul resound in our heart and ears. Let it be a reminder to only allow good dwell in us and direct our actions because Evil dwells here too. But we should never allow ourselves be the house/temple for it.


Being a christian is easy. As in you give your life to a very powerful Almighty God and no evil can prevail over you. 
Giving our lives to God is a simple insurance policy. It means;

No weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and this is their vindication from me,” declares the LORD. Isaiah 54:17 (NIV)

It also means;

Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. Psalm 91:1 (NIV).

Surely he will save you from the fowler’s snare and from the deadly pestilence.<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-15399F" data-link="(F)” style=”font-size: 0.625em; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: top;”>
He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge;Psalm 91:3-4 (NIV).

A thousand may fall at your side,

    ten thousand at your right hand,

    but it will not come near you.

You will only observe with your eyes

    and see the punishment of the wicked.<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-15404J" data-link="(J)” style=”font-size: 0.625em; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: top;”>

If you say, “The Lord is my refuge,”

    and you make the Most High your dwelling,

10 no harm<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-15406K" data-link="(K)” style=”font-size: 0.625em; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: top;”> will overtake you,

    no disaster will come near your tent.

11 For he will command his angels<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-15407L" data-link="(L)” style=”font-size: 0.625em; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: top;”>concerning you

    to guard you in all your ways;<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-15407M" data-link="(M)” style=”font-size: 0.625em; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: top;”>

12 they will lift you up in their hands,

    so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-15408N" data-link="(N)” style=”font-size: 0.625em; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: top;”>

13 You will tread on the lion and the cobra;

    you will trample the great lion and the serpent.<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-15409O" data-link="(O)” style=”font-size: 0.625em; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: top;”>

14 “Because he<span class="footnote" data-fn="#fen-NIV-15410b" data-link="[b]” style=”font-size: 0.625em; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: top;”>[b] loves me,” says theLord, “I will rescue him;

    I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.

15 He will call on me, and I will answer him;

    I will be with him in trouble,

    I will deliver him and honor him.<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-15411P" data-link="(P)” style=”font-size: 0.625em; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: top;”>

16 With long life<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-15412Q" data-link="(Q)” style=”font-size: 0.625em; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: top;”> I will satisfy him

    and show him my salvation.<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-15412R" data-link="(R)” style=”font-size: 0.625em; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: top;”>” Psalm 91:7-16

Then it means; 

The blessing of the LORD makes a person rich, and he adds no sorrow with it. Proverbs 10:22 

All these blessings, protection and security abound if we make the decision to make God first and centre of our lives.

Fortunately, many of us have taken the first step in deciding to be followers of Christ some have even gone further to be preacher and propagator of the word. But these blessings and promises are not tied to our words, our profession of being followers. They are tied to our actions, our daily decision to choose God over our senses.

Sometimes, we may feel stagnant believing God as left us to our own vices. We may even feel/hear God calling us to a life we thought demeaning. A spouse you may think you don’t love, a job you feel is beneath you. 

If we always choose God over our senses. We will find the truth and reality of Gods promises for us. We will find fulfilment in that assignment he as given us. Find true love and peace in our marriages. Find wealth in health and material things and even enlarge your coast. 

All is dependent on one thing “CHOOSE GOD ALWAYS” in our daily decision.

Let me leave you with one last scriptural quote. 

Do not be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters! Every good gift and every perfect present comes from heaven; it comes down from God, the Creator of the heavenly lights, who does not change or cause darkness by turning. James 1:16‭-‬17 GNB


I used to think myself a giver. Giving those around me when in need. Infact I can go an extra mile and even borrow to help someone in need.

That was me. The person I thought I was. The person I smiled at in the mirror and said, you’re doing good girl. You will make heaven because you are generous.


For some reasons my wedding date was moved up unexpectedly, leaving me cash trapped. I was desperately in need of money to support the wedding preparation. Unfortunately all those who I’d given, gone all the way out for or made a sacrifice for refused to move an inche  to help out.


At this point i was frustrated. I lashed out a few times. Angry that all those who I’d helped have refused to come to my aid in my time of need.

I realise these people are the “needy” always only around when in need. They were never going to really pay me back. I was only in their lives for the service I provided (help).

Wedding preparation continued as planned, but I was really angry at this discovery. I was disappointed and hurt.


I took a bible study plan about extravagant praise and that was when I discovered I had never truly being a generous person in the first place.

I was someone who invested in the wrong place. Who gave to those who I expected would give me back on a raining day like my wedding period. 

I went all out for people so they will owe me and in turn pay up when time is due.


Months after the wedding, an unexpected gift was given to me by the least expected person. She said its better late than never. I was excited that months after the wedding gifts were still rolling in. 

However, still what is generosity? 


While it is good to give even friends and family I think giving strangers is a great way to check our reasons for giving.  Assisting the littlest in our society in secret confirms our motive (if you’re unable to do this you know you’re not giving for the right reasons).

The story of the woman with the alabaster jar shows she didn’t care about the price of the perfume nor did she care about the value of her hair. Her coming to Jesus was purely out of overwhelming love and admiration. 

Until we learn to give in secret without expecting anything in return, we cannot ascribe the word generous to ourselves. 

If you give publicly and you have received praise and admiration of those around you for “doing good” you are not generous. It means you get off of people’s praise. That praise not heaven is your reward right there and you’re only a praise junky.

If you give like I used to; giving those who I consider friends and family with the hope of being helped someday is not generosity either and there is no reward in heaven waiting for you. It’s investing and I hope unlike me you will invest wisely if you so decide to do so.


I read a post on Facebook about how an entrepreneur felt he was the most miserable and unsuccessful person on the planet before meeting a set of young boys who’s conversation made him realise he may well be an above average person.

Life sometimes throws us down out of balance to teach us lessons and humble us. Sometimes it lifts us up, making us feel like we are the best and most favorite people on the planet. 

All in all we all need to learn at our highs and lows. We need to be humble when things are going well and acknowledge those who may be struggling yet not getting results. At our lows we need to understand that its not that bad and things would get better.

In life we need to be appreciative of where we are, satisfied that we are doing our best daily and hold on to hope for a better more fulfilled future.

The tragedy is when we loose hope for the future and live a dissatisfied present. Many in their old age look back on how they’ve spent their lives only to realise that after being alive for 40years or more they never really lived at all. 

And that there would be the biggest tragedy of any Human life.



I’ve being struggling with church attendance. Initially, I felt guilty. I was so guilt ridden I started to think I was bound for hell if I continued to avoid church.


Growing up, church attendance was absolutely important. The only time we won’t go is when on admission in the hospital. In fact after secondary school while i waited for my WASSCE and jamb result church became an everyday activity. 

Hence, I got used to beliving that in order to make heaven the first and perhaps one of the most important factor is church attendance. My struggle in the last few weeks has being real. My mind felt like a battle ground.

Sometimes, the good wins and i go to church. Emotionally I’m happy but deep inside I start to wonder if I went to mass just to fulfill an emotional need or if I thought it really important to attend.


Eventually, I resolved to stay away from church until I found the source to this inner battle. Wage my wars and come out with a decision. The last few weeks has been interesting. I’ve not attended mass, but I’ve made note to watch and follow at least one mass on TV. 


On Sunday (I wanted to go to mass for thanksgiving but didn’t ), I had watched mass on TV and gone on with my day. But it dawned on me. I really listened to what the priest was saying without biase, without anxiety. 

I was at peace, I was in the right disposition to listen to God’s word, take notes and even remind myself that God is my everything. 


That’s when I found it. The main put off I’ve had in weeks about going to church had nothing to do with my relationship with God. I still prayed fervently more than once a day. I still read the bible at free time and did devotions. I still said my Catholic prayers and followed bible study plans. 

What I found unsettlingly was the way and manner money is raised in the church. We believe to stay close to God we need to give our substance so we can get answers to our prayers. The priest stands on the alter issuing subtle threats and causes on anyone who dears not contribute his substance. 

Sitting on the pew while everyone goes for offering makes other Church members look at you funny .  There is the body language that screams You Rebel! 

What about the time we spend? I came to note that liturgy of the word and holy Eucharist lasts about thirty minutes (when the priest does not overly stretch the liturgy of the word) then we spend the remaining two and half or three hours raising money for one project or another. 

In fact during harvest season we think it more important to launch and make money for the harvest than the liturgy of the word and holy Eucharist which is the foundation and crux on our coming together. The word is rushed sometimes. Skipping the preaching aspect altogether is considered prudent in some cases to allow more time to “raise” money for harvest.


What are we really doing? I’ve attended churches that holds 1hour masses on Sundays and everything is Incorporated. The preaching is concised and effective. I was better for it.

And I’ve attended churches (most common group) where the mass lasted and average of 31/2 hours with preaching too long that majority are sleeping or skipped altogether to raise money. Majorly, I discovered that only Dominican priests took not wasting time seriously around here and truly considered spiritual growth of their congregation more important than raising more. Unfortunately only few of those parishes exists. Many of the rest are no better than the pentecostal churches they enjoy condemning.

Now I know what I didn’t agree with. I know why I started hating going to church. I’d love to go back to attending church regularly on Sundays but I’m unsure of what how to achieve this without feeling I’m going for a fund raiser instead of the gathering of brethren…